Psychotherapist (HPG)

Psychotherapy for Relationship Issues

Together we find paths to conscious closeness and relationship building.

When relationships feel confining, it's time to develop new ways of connecting.

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When Closeness and Distance Are Out of Balance

Relationships are one of the most important factors for our well-being – and at the same time one of the greatest challenges. Whether in partnerships, family, professional life, at work, or in friendships: when relationships burden rather than strengthen, overall quality of life suffers.
Perhaps you experience recurring conflicts, feel unseen or misunderstood in relationships, have difficulties with closeness or setting boundaries, or are going through a painful separation.
In my practice in Bochum, I support you in understanding your relationship patterns and developing new, healthier ways of connecting. I work with individuals – not couples.
Change begins with ourselves. When you understand which inner patterns shape your relationships, you can actively take new paths.

Understanding and Changing Relationship Patterns

In a confidential initial consultation, we look at your relationship situation together and find out how I can support you.

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How Do Relationship Problems Develop?

Our relationship patterns are significantly shaped in childhood. The experiences we have with our first attachment figures form our expectations, fears, and behaviors in later relationships.
For example, if our own needs were not seen in childhood, we may have difficulty expressing our wishes in relationships as adults – or we may act in an over-adapted way, overriding our own boundaries.
These patterns usually run unconsciously and show up particularly in close relationships. In therapy, we make these patterns visible and gradually develop new, more beautiful ways of relating.
It's not about assigning blame to yourself or others, but about developing understanding and expanding your options for action.

My Therapeutic Approach to Relationship Issues and Conflicts

HER & HIS – Steps towards clarified, fulfilling relationships. A universal concept that promotes emotional agency and connection. Both approaches begin with awareness – yet they differ in direction: HER leads inward, HIS directs outward into the relationship. Only in their interplay does a third path emerge: a conscious, clear, and vibrant togetherness that is no longer governed by unconscious back and forth.

HER – Steps for Relationship Clarity and Emotional Connection

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Harmonize & Strengthen Self-Worth (Body-Oriented Approaches / Centering)

We nurture your inner balance, strengthen your self-esteem and the connection to body and feelings, so you can consciously shape relationships while safeguarding your own boundaries and staying in touch with your needs.

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Explore Insight & Recognize Patterns (Depth Psychology & Schema Therapy)

We discover unconscious conflict and belief patterns and bring clarity to recurring dynamics.

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Resources, Living & Accepting Emotions (ACT / Resource Work)

You learn to perceive your feelings and needs, accept them, and act with appreciation, so that encounters become deeper, clearer, and more fulfilling.

HIS – Steps for Relationship Clarity and Agency

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Develop Stance & Show Presence (Body-Oriented Approaches and Perspective Work)

You develop a clear inner stance and strengthen your presence in contact with others. This gives you stability and self-awareness, so you can communicate clearly and authentically.

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Understand Interaction (Depth Psychology & Schema Therapy)

You recognize where conflicts arise: Who reacts to whom and how? Which dynamics repeat themselves? How do you yourself affect the relationship? This understanding creates orientation and self-awareness in interpersonal dynamics.

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Steer & Act (ACT / Resource Work)

You learn to consciously steer your behavior and remain capable of action even in challenging situations. This enables you to shape relationships actively, clearly, and responsibly.

Note on the Application of HER & HIS

The concepts HER and HIS do not refer to men or women, but to different feminine and masculine dynamics. Every person can use both paths – depending on which aspects are particularly important in their personality or relationship at the moment.

Advantages of My Practice

Why therapy for relationship issues in my practice supports you in a targeted and empathetic way.

Support at the Right Moment

Even in acute relationship crises, you can quickly get an appointment – you determine the pace of your development.

Holistic Perspective

I always view your relationship themes from multiple perspectives – feelings, thoughts, and dynamics – keeping both sides in view to develop deeper understanding and tailored solutions.

Individual & Pragmatic

Every relationship and every situation is unique – therapy is specifically tailored to your personal needs and dynamics. And it is always oriented toward concrete implementation.

Flexible Formats

Whether in-person at my practice in Bochum or online sessions – we find the format that suits you best.

Further Information

Psychotherapy – OverviewDepressionBlog: Setting Boundaries

Psychotherapy for Relationship Issues in Bochum and Online

Understand and change relationship patterns – therapeutic support for relationship conflicts. In my practice in Bochum or via online therapy.

Available in:

Bochum
Dortmund
Essen
Herne
Witten
Gelsenkirchen
Online

My practice in Bochum is easily accessible from Dortmund, Essen, Herne, Witten, and Gelsenkirchen. Alternatively, I offer relationship therapy as online therapy via video call – throughout Germany.

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Frequently Asked Questions

Answers to the most important questions about therapy for relationship issues.

No, I work with individuals. Often the relationship dynamic changes when one person begins to understand their patterns and try new behaviors. Couples therapy is not part of my offering.
Absolutely. A separation can be one of the most painful experiences in life. In therapy, I support you in processing it and help you emerge stronger from the experience.
First, we get an overview of your situation and your relationship patterns. Then we work specifically on the topics that burden you most. You set the pace.
The scope of therapy depends on the depth of your issues. In many cases, an initial good clarification can be achieved after just 3–5 sessions. For deeper relationship patterns, longer support may be beneficial – always tailored and self-determined at your pace.
As a psychotherapist (HPG), I do not bill statutory health insurers directly. Therefore, my services must be self-funded.

Successful Relationships Start with You

Let's work together on your relationship patterns – for more connection, clarity, and quality of life.

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